Nonetheless, your story in today’s New York Times about shopping with your mom for a wedding gown before she died tells me you are realists, and I hope my message will appeal to that aspect of your character.
As we in the BRCA community often say, “knowledge is power,” and, indeed, knowing that I carry a BRCA gene mutation gave me the ability to make decisions to ensure that genetics wouldn’t dictate my destiny the way it did my mom's.
P.S. If you want to learn more about HBOC, check out the FORCE website, which includes a terrific, knowledgeable and supportive community of people affected by hereditary cancer. I hope you're not one of us, but if you are, we're here for you.